Get your ex back even if they dating someone new
Before long, your ex will be looking for a way to get out of their rebound – and, if you play your cards right, make their way back into arms! My ex quickly found a "replacement" as soon as he thought he wanted a divorce. I even told him in cynicism, "All the best to you both."Whether or not she was -I really have no way to tell-, the point is he wasn't looking for a relationship, or at least unconsciously he wasn't.He was a train-wreck emotionally, there was no chance in the world he could start with someone new while not being over me and our marriage -even though he wanted to believe and told everyone he was.By learning what to do (and not do) after the breakup, you can make your ex miss, need, and want you again. This was the incredibly magical time when you and your boyfriend or girlfriend first fell in love, and everything between you was perfect. By reminding them of how awesome your romance used to be, you can start showing them all the ways it can be like that again.Luckily, there are some excellent reconnection techniques designed to put you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend right back into that honeymoon mindset.If you're not yet ready to let go of your exgirlfriend, and there's still some fight left in you, I have good news.The fact that your ex is now dating a new guy isn't as bad as you think it is. In reality though, your ex was probably feeling very vulnerable after the breakup, and clung to the first bit of attention she saw.When I break up with someone I ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me.It’s a pretty effective system; I don’t think about what they’re doing or whom they’re doing it with, and gradually the left over feelings start to fade.
Finding out your ex is dating a new guy can be one of the most demoralizing things in the world, especially if you've been working toward winning her back.But sometimes my island refugees escape via social media raft and decide it’s time to tell Facebook all about their super awesome new relationships.And then I want to escape to a remote, Internet-free island IRL.But, usually, after 3-4 months, they start to see the little things that bother the hell out of them and bigger problems or the same issues they had with you -only now with someone they like less- that caused you to break up in the first place begin to pop up. Later on he told me it was because the pain was too great for him to handle alone. I was devastated, yet deep down I knew he loved me still and there was no way the two could last.That's why such relationships break down most of the time. He even told me months before that she was "emotionally unstable" (yes they had known each other for over 10 years before we even met and she was going through a divorce too for cheating on her husband -so to make matter worse she was also on a rebound, talking about two peas in a pot :)).